Most people love to travel (I am not one of them). This causes a problem; I have the curiosity and desire to see many of the wonders of the world; the wonders of my own country; a contradiction to be sure! I think this falls under the category of ‘self improvement’, even at this age!
Months before a scheduled trip (it would be best to spring them on me) I begin to imagine all that could happen while I’m gone, what could befall me or my home while I’m on the planned adventure. I have a limited long end to our trips that I can cope with, driving my husband to wring his hands seeing he would like to incorporate every possible thing to be done on an expensive/or not so expensive adventure. Ten days! My limit, I can’t go beyond that or I begin to fall apart and turn into an absolute pain and everyone knows where. I’ve not tried longer so who knows, I may not implode and my house and animals may not fall into ruin while I am gone. I’m not going there though; I don’t want anyone getting ideas.
I’ve struggled with this ‘issue’ all my life. It didn’t matter for much of my life because I didn’t travel; I thought about it and solved some of my wanderlust by reading about the interesting places to go…..someday, safely in the future. I’d been on a few trips, short ones, saw a few things in the United States on well planned trips that I knew beforehand where I would be and what I would be doing, who would be caring for my children, my dog, my garden, all the things that are near and dear to my heart.
As it has a habit of doing life changed! Bam! There it was, I was a single woman (I preferred never to call myself a widow at 48) and the future was before me and I needed to make changes. The changes are a story for another day; today we’ll stick to travel
I met my current husband, which leads to multiple stories for other days! To visit him I had to fly, by myself to totally unfamiliar territories. Well, suck it up and do it was all I could think of doing, but I could control the time frame and where I stayed (very important to an environment based person). It was much easier when he visited me, but not always possible. My flights began, I got pretty good at it and branched out to meet him in different cities where we could go on a cruise! Oh boy, panic in my heart. A cruise, on a ship and I don’t like water and what kind of ‘room’ would we have and would it have a private enough bathroom area, my thoughts go on and on. Early in a relationship one doesn’t always make their desires and views (and weaknesses) completely well-known. That takes time and getting to know your companion better, admitting a weakness or even two (more than that and you are pressing your luck), or to express loudly a strength!
While writing these entries I’m trying to relate my short stories to gardening, something I know well. I can do that! Never fear, I do have a relationship in mind to my gardens and me. My plants and I have something in common! They dislike being moved, every single one of them. Even though I’m usually doing them a favor, improved light, better soil, and better drainage, all for their benefit. They react much like I do when faced with traveling. They wilt, they sulk, they refuse to thrive, sometimes parts fall off, and it’s often not a pretty picture. They liked it where they were no matter they weren’t growing well, or not able to show their full beauty. I coddle them and treat them well, pay attention and almost all the time they come around. They don’t always do what I planned but most often they survive and turn out better for their move. I don’t mention to them they aren’t going back to their former home. That’s where our stories differ; I do come home to my animals (seven), my family, my ‘treasures’ and my own bed. Of course while I am traveling, my husband is with me and I’m totally engrossed in taking photos of this that and the other thing. Sometimes what I’m taking a picture of is a doorway, or the crack in an old Roman wall, again leaving me stories for other days.
As you may have guessed I have a trip coming up. Wish me a bon voyage and that I don’t lose leaves, wilt or sulk. I haven’t yet, but it could happen!
Great story, and you are a comic. I’m eager to continue reading. That’s a good sign. Store it in your kudos file.
Thank you for the encouragement & tip! I picked a few things to use. On going learning! Great fun.
Tibor Lageman said:
Nice….I’ve traveled a.bit, and find little desire for it now. There is always something interesting that comes of it though. I think your main concerns,( Your animals and plants’ well-being) are indeed the major stressers which expound your reluctance to travel. With me, it is my dog Szemi, and the guilt of leaving her for more than, Ha! 10 days or so… So take short Jaunts and enjoy!
Thank you for reading Tibor. I can see from your Facebook page how much Szemi means to you. It’s hard to have pets in our life and travel the world! I have a strong sense of responsibility and sounds like you do too!
I move plants around every year looking for that perfect environment. When they wake up after their long winter nap, they never know where they will be residing. I think I have moved my 8 primrose jasmine plants 4 times and have another move in mind. I think it is important for your shrubbery to have an honest fear of you and what you might do to them. I think that encourages cooperation. If not, then next year you get moved to Mary’s Prairie where all bad plants go for last rites.
Thank you for reading my blog Sharon, I do appreciate it. I don’t want to go to Mary’s Prairie….I know what happens there! Roundup time!
Welcome to BlogLand, Trudy! I look forward to sharing vicariously in your adventures. I can totally relate to your plants. I have had to learn to travel & I am most reluctant to travel abroad. I subscribe to Dorothy’s mantra, “There’s no place like home! There’s no place like home!” love you!
You are part of my inspiration Grayson! And Earl & Myra 🙂 I am learning how important feedback is so even though I read everything you write, I’ve not always responded with a kind word, shame on me. When will I stop learning lessons? I know the answer to that one. Love you too!
You’re a blogger now! Nice work. Light, effortless style. Very easy to read, leaves the reader wanting more. Most importantly, it’s real. Honesty is like catching flies with honey. I always thought that Lily would transform my house into an underground gambling haven if I stayed away too long. She is an opportunistic hedonist. Long story. Waiting for next blog! Proud of you.
Thank you my first born. Commenting and or feedback is important (until I get negative, then I’ll cry and hide my head never to write again 🙂 I can’t imagine that sweet pug turning your house into a gambling den!
Earl B Russell said:
I like this introspective and funny piece. The panic of travel shines through. Pardon the pun, but you’re off to a “flying start” as a blogger. With three posts on the board now, you’re on a roll!
Thank you Earl. Your puns forever entertain me 🙂 I’m learning feedback is important.
Darlene Pendell said:
Trudy, You are off on an adventure. I love your last post filled with you; humor and insight. Off you go and I will love to follow. I just don’t know how to get to your blog without an email.
Thank you my special friend. I am having fun with this…so far! You can reach my blog by an icon that is on the blog it’s self that gives you an email when I’ve posted or you can type in my URL (love that) https://trudyleedarman.wordpress.com I actually pop up! I’ve so much to learn….and my mind is whirlling with ideas. Feedback is important, I’m already learning that.
Wonderful read!! I do know you were so disappointed to not make it o China. I am wondering though if I should take any of it personally as I am the caretaker of your animals whenever you are away….has Callie been telling tales of mistreatment? 🙂
The animals etc. are all true…mostly it’s me….I do tend to fall apart, those are just some of the things I blame it on 🙂 I also think it’s a bit of me thinking my animals sit around all day AWAKE thinking about me! I think I’m mistaken. You are not at fault at all, I’m fortunate to have you caring for my animals and part of my life 🙂
A blog? What a treat, makes it feel like your not so far away. I await your travel adventures, so sulk if you must, lose some leaves(hopefully only the gray ones) and if any wilting occures, hydrate!
Thank you for taking time to read Heidi! It’s going to take me some time to hone this so I can write something interesting and readable. We are off to Panama soon (couple weeks) so I will be sucking it up again 🙂 And I shall hydrate! Hugs!